Saturday, September 05, 2009

Young Men "Only After One Thing" Shock Horror (incorporating Saturday Night Music)

A third of teenage girls suffer sexual abuse in a relationship and a quarter experience violence at the hands of their boyfriends, a survey suggests.

Nearly 90% of 1,400 girls aged 13 to 17 had been in intimate relationships, the NSPCC and University of Bristol found.

Of these, one in six said they had been pressured into sexual intercourse ...

Don't think I take this issue lightly - no father of a young daughter could do. But what the NSPCC and University of Bristol have to tell us is something that's been known for thousands of years. It appears the sexual revolution has destroyed our collective memory. Our grandparents and their grandparents knew that a young man would say anything and promise anything to get a young woman into bed.

"That's not the promise that you gave to me
When first you lay on my breast,
You could make me believe with your lying tongue
That the sun rose in the west."

The 60s cultural revolution created more of a buyer's market. An attractive young man / hip young dude could be more up-front.

"If you gotta go, go now
Or else you got to stay all night"

"Yesterday has just departed,
And tomorrow hasn't started,
All that really matters is right now"

"I didn't tell you no lies, girl
So don't just sit there and cry, girl"

One of the many admirable things about our Muslim communities is that these simple verities are still part of their culture - and inform family life. While they are acutely aware that young men have issues around sexual continence, they make damn sure that, whoever is parked up with three boys, round the corner from the fast-food place, in the S-reg Corsa - it won't be little Pashmina.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I recall some fatuous BBC article, presumably by one of their juvenile graduate reporters, talking about teenage sex. Apparently when the girls and boys started talking about it, the girls were "surprised how sensitive and caring boys could be".